Reporters crying at depositions - in the conference room - CSRNation2024-03-28T23:33:15Zhttp://csrnation.ning.com/forum/topics/reporters-crying-at-depositions-in-the-conference-room?commentId=1736041%3AComment%3A1267200&feed=yes&xn_auth=noShoot, I almost never get to…tag:csrnation.ning.com,2013-08-31:1736041:Comment:12815602013-08-31T21:51:25.389ZLisa O'Sullivanhttp://csrnation.ning.com/xn/detail/u_1xulkcyjwrslf
<p>Shoot, I almost never get to use that word, and now I see I'm to be foiled. Ah, well. It's good to hear your heart is in the right place. :) You have a happy Labor Day too, Randall!</p>
<p>Shoot, I almost never get to use that word, and now I see I'm to be foiled. Ah, well. It's good to hear your heart is in the right place. :) You have a happy Labor Day too, Randall!</p> Randall, couple things. First…tag:csrnation.ning.com,2013-08-31:1736041:Comment:12813862013-08-31T06:09:16.049ZLisa O'Sullivanhttp://csrnation.ning.com/xn/detail/u_1xulkcyjwrslf
<p>Randall, couple things. First, you recently called me out for commenting on a misspelling here at csrNation, your reasoning being that this is a venue in which we're not being graded. So what the heck is your "two T's" comment to Kelli all about, then??</p>
<p>Also, I saw some kind of brouhaha about you on a FB page. What's going on, man??</p>
<p>Randall, couple things. First, you recently called me out for commenting on a misspelling here at csrNation, your reasoning being that this is a venue in which we're not being graded. So what the heck is your "two T's" comment to Kelli all about, then??</p>
<p>Also, I saw some kind of brouhaha about you on a FB page. What's going on, man??</p> Not really because half the a…tag:csrnation.ning.com,2013-08-16:1736041:Comment:12804632013-08-16T20:59:07.054ZKelli Combs (admin)http://csrnation.ning.com/profile/Kellicombsadmin
<p>Not really because half the attorneys were sharing a copy. It was actually eight attorneys and I was getting paid for four copies.</p>
<p>Not really because half the attorneys were sharing a copy. It was actually eight attorneys and I was getting paid for four copies.</p> Now, THAT would make me cry.…tag:csrnation.ning.com,2013-06-15:1736041:Comment:12729922013-06-15T16:17:46.962ZCynthia Dunbarhttp://csrnation.ning.com/profile/CynthiaDunbar
<p>Now, THAT would make me cry. I would just not work that whole week. :(</p>
<p>Now, THAT would make me cry. I would just not work that whole week. :(</p> Huh? "NUMBEROUS"? I need to…tag:csrnation.ning.com,2013-06-15:1736041:Comment:12728292013-06-15T16:09:05.788ZCynthia Dunbarhttp://csrnation.ning.com/profile/CynthiaDunbar
<p>Huh? "NUMBEROUS"? I need to sleep more.</p>
<p>Huh? "NUMBEROUS"? I need to sleep more.</p> I'm late to the party on this…tag:csrnation.ning.com,2013-06-15:1736041:Comment:12729272013-06-15T16:07:09.514ZCynthia Dunbarhttp://csrnation.ning.com/profile/CynthiaDunbar
<p>I'm late to the party on this one. I've only ever become misty-eyed through some very sad testimony - i.e., the very tragic death of the witness's loved one where the person killed was literally in the wrong place at the wrong time. (Yeah, I'm not as likely to cry is someone got killed by being an idiot.) I am a reporter who is more likely to get irritated and ticked when the testimony is difficult - and difficult for me means people being a**holes. I had three people getting snitty,…</p>
<p>I'm late to the party on this one. I've only ever become misty-eyed through some very sad testimony - i.e., the very tragic death of the witness's loved one where the person killed was literally in the wrong place at the wrong time. (Yeah, I'm not as likely to cry is someone got killed by being an idiot.) I am a reporter who is more likely to get irritated and ticked when the testimony is difficult - and difficult for me means people being a**holes. I had three people getting snitty, unprofessional, inappropriately emboldened the other day with a complete disregard for the record; so I did what I've done in the past. I took my hands off the machine and said, "Look, I'm going off the record because I can't get this down - so tell me what you want to do." This was after numberous polite and then increasingly firmer requests. I am a lot more likely to get beyond ticked as opposed to crying.</p>
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<p>BUT I started this career at 35. I worked in the entertainment industry for over a decade before this - with producers and agents and talent and execs that were unfair for infinitely more ridiculous reasons than I've seen in depo (seriously) - so my tendency to cry has been squelched by another industry. It's probably why I don't cry if I think someone did something stupid or they're completely exaggerating something, regardless of the consequence. I think the last time I cried was when a VERY powerful baseball agent berated me on the phone for half an hour because of something my anchor did after he discussed the interview with my producer. They wouldn't answer their phones - so it was up to me to get screamed at like a straw man. At the end he said, "I know you had no control over it, but I'm really p*ssed off right now." Thanks, dude. I felt better after the president of an MLB team told me, "Oh, he yells at me all the time." That was the last time I cried on the job.</p>
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<p>So perhaps it's age and crustiness thing. I am very glad I didn't get into court reporting without some general life under my belt.</p> I've had anxiety attacks befo…tag:csrnation.ning.com,2013-06-15:1736041:Comment:12729852013-06-15T00:05:34.158ZKelli Combs (admin)http://csrnation.ning.com/profile/Kellicombsadmin
<p>I've had anxiety attacks before. It's usually with 10 or more attorneys in the room. I just realized you need to breathe and just relax and it goes away. I've only had it on one particular case I was on and the tension was so thick, you could cut it with a knife. Never experienced it before but when I had it, I knew exactly what it was.</p>
<p>I've had anxiety attacks before. It's usually with 10 or more attorneys in the room. I just realized you need to breathe and just relax and it goes away. I've only had it on one particular case I was on and the tension was so thick, you could cut it with a knife. Never experienced it before but when I had it, I knew exactly what it was.</p> OMG. I was really put to the…tag:csrnation.ning.com,2013-06-14:1736041:Comment:12727172013-06-14T20:31:18.972ZD Sanders, RDR, CRRhttp://csrnation.ning.com/profile/DSanders
<p>OMG. I was really put to the test about ten years ago. It was a death case - civil side. The mom lost her only son in a drunk driving accident. It was The. Saddest.Depo I ever had. I mean, she and her son were so close. Everyone in the room was watching me. It was all I could do not to cry with her. When I was editing later -- I didn't want to but didn't use scopists back then -- I cried the whole time.</p>
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<p>OMG. I was really put to the test about ten years ago. It was a death case - civil side. The mom lost her only son in a drunk driving accident. It was The. Saddest.Depo I ever had. I mean, she and her son were so close. Everyone in the room was watching me. It was all I could do not to cry with her. When I was editing later -- I didn't want to but didn't use scopists back then -- I cried the whole time.</p>
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<p>Also back when I first started reporting, I was totally unprepared for life as a reporter. I had the hardest time. One time I was really stressing and I excused myself - I had broken out into a cold sweat and went to the bathroom and laid on the floor. I learned later that I had an anxiety attack. </p>
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<p> </p> When I was reporting, I had t…tag:csrnation.ning.com,2013-06-14:1736041:Comment:12726712013-06-14T16:52:55.677ZCherylegal, Inc.http://csrnation.ning.com/profile/CherylegalInc
<p>When I was reporting, I had the good fortune (said dripping with sarcasm) of taking a Japane physicist's speech. I'm in Colorado Springs, and the firm I worked for received the contract to do the NASA convention speakers. We all took our turns. Mine was this man who not only didn't speak English very well, he was using words that I had not clue what he was saying. Hey, I was an English major, not a science major! I calmly sat there and got what I could. It was being taped and I knew I…</p>
<p>When I was reporting, I had the good fortune (said dripping with sarcasm) of taking a Japane physicist's speech. I'm in Colorado Springs, and the firm I worked for received the contract to do the NASA convention speakers. We all took our turns. Mine was this man who not only didn't speak English very well, he was using words that I had not clue what he was saying. Hey, I was an English major, not a science major! I calmly sat there and got what I could. It was being taped and I knew I could get that. I also knew I could et a copy of his report when he was finished. When he finally ended, I ran up to the stage to get a copy of his report, which he gladly gave to me. IT WAS IN JAPANESE!!! So I get the tapes, and I still couldn't get what he was saying. I can remember trying to put some kind of transcript together. That was the ONLY time I cried, and it was at home at 2:00 a.m. The next morning, I took the tapes and the speech into my boss. She listened to the tapes, called whomever we had the contract from, and told them that this speech would not be put into a transcript. It wasn't a problem, but I can remember finally breaking down that night. But to cry during a job, in my opinion, is so unprofessional. I know we're human and there are extremely sad stories, but even then, I think that's when you kind of go on auto pilot and get through it. There were times when I bawled all the way home due to the horrifying stories I heard, but kept control until I was in the privacy of my car...</p> They tell you that type of ne…tag:csrnation.ning.com,2013-04-27:1736041:Comment:12679552013-04-27T16:15:55.466ZAmanda Leighhttp://csrnation.ning.com/profile/AmandaLeigh
<p>They tell you that type of news over the telephone? I don't know if I could continue--I guess you just go into shock mode, Martha. Yes, never will I call my doctor on a break!!</p>
<p>They tell you that type of news over the telephone? I don't know if I could continue--I guess you just go into shock mode, Martha. Yes, never will I call my doctor on a break!!</p>